Haha its cool :) Ya, I guess you could definitely say I am low key about it. Like I said, its mostly in the bedroom. I wouldn’t mind some restraints, but I dont want to be strung from the ceiling or upside down, ha. I like feeling like I belong to someone, so I am more of a pet than anything. And I have only been with 2 guys, both way different in size. The first guy was a average 5 inches or so, and just didn’t feel good to me, I never really enjoyed sex with him. The guy I am with now, is wayyyyyy bigger. It felt like I was loosing my virginity again the first time we had sex. Uh, it definitely turns me on a lot more than the first guy, thats for sure. BUt, I am a lot more open with this guy now, and way more attracted him. Would never want the first guy to be my dom, eck. BUt, a lot of people are not like that. I am a relationship kinda gal. And maybe you could go in with small things at first. :) Have you heard of fetlife? Its a great way to get involved in the BDSM community in your area.